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So many of us know this issue. Maybe you found yourself wondering, "But hey, this is a good person. I should stay." You probably considered that if you were leaving, it would take a while before you find another partner, and who knows, if it would be a better one? "It's hard to find a good partner," you may have told yourself.
That is because you have come to a place in your life where you have lowered your standards. And it's not about the kind of relationship you'd like to have. Because you continue to dream and phantasize of a better relationship. But you most probably lowered your standards on yourself. That means, you have accepted a life of dependency, a life which no longer is dictated by the joy in your heart, but by the fear of not having, or not getting what you want from a relationship. You have come to an agreement with yourself that it's OK to want less, and not be "too picky."
Well, surprise. It's not a great place to be, isn't it? It feels pretty miserable, because deep within, you know that you're supposed to be happy. And you know that you deserve a good relationship. And honestly, doesn't your partner deserve a good relationship, too? What does that say about you, when you think about your relationship, and the way you interact with your partner, and what you see is that you are just going ahead comfortably, but miserable in your attempts to be happy?
Consider your relationships now, my friends. Be honest and see what you can do to be happier.
P.S. We will discuss these issues of relationships in our upcoming Saint-Germain online workshop. Join us, if you'd like to explore more about the ways that you can bring more joy into your relationships. (We also have a Give-away. Check the details on the same Joy and Clarity website.)
What is a good relationship? The last couple of years, I am detaching from deep and intens relationships with my spouse, my mother and even my 3 grown up kids. This needed balancing out ofcourse and hasn't been easy to these family members and me but it seems that we have found our new balance. I feel very much more free now and know that freedom and the happy feeling it gives to me comes more from within then from others around me. So, although I no longer have deep, intense relationships and instead, just "going ahead comfortably", I am much happier this way. So to me, this is a good relationship at the moment.
ReplyDeleteGreetings all, Tetsje
I'm 79 and finally experiencing the place in consciousness you are presently experiencing. And, like yourself, I'm happier than I've ever been, but still! I sense there's an infinitely long ways to go. Learning to relax into "infinity" where there are no endings is quite a challenge for me. I'm an American so the name Tetsje seems strange to me. What nationality are you?
ReplyDeleteWarmly, Tomius