June 10, 2014

YOUR FAMILY DESIGN


Family relationships are the most complex and intricate of all your relationships. Yes, even more than your romantic relationships. Why is this so? Because when you are born in your family, or live with an adoptive family, you acquire your roles and responsibilities very early, and they will define you for the rest of your life. You also come into the world with a baggage of your past karma, which you are here to work with, and most often to change it to the better.

No wonder that you (like many other people) feel that being part of your family is a challenge, and not a fun one many times. It isn't fun to come into a family, where your roles are determined from the start, and you can't really change much about that, until much later in your life.

But have your thought of a different perspective? When you are part of your family, and you have your determined role, you also experience how to be part of the greater fabric of humanity. You learn that you are not alone, even in the most conflictual of family relationships. The family that you are a part of helps you understand that your role, and presence contributes to the betterment of everyone involved in your life. You have your first experiences of knowing what it means to depend on someone, or have someone else depend on you. You feel loyalty, and deep connection to another human being. And of course, in most of the cases, in this complex design of relationships, you also feel and experience Love.

The love of a parent, or care giver, the love of a sibling, the love of grandparents and cousins. You are in the middle of this woven pattern of Love, where you know your place, and where you belong.

Of course that it isn't always perfect to live with your family, nor it is always fun to have to wait until you are out of the family to explore your individuality and self-determination. But the first experiences of communion, and deep connection with another being start right there, in your family. And it is an experience that you carry with you for as long as you live. What you learn from these relationships, you put into practice when you create your own family later in life. You have this design that you are a part of, and you continue to weave into it your own addition of a family.

What do you take from your family relationships that you were born or adopted into, and how do you weave your own family relationships later in life? Is it a completely different design, or maybe it has elements of what you already know from earlier in your life? Think about this.

► Join us June 20th for the Saint-Germain workshop about Family Relationships.
We'll be exploring how you can weave a family design that brings joy and love into your life!

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